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How 'up for it' are you...
Now
Not at all
Bring it on!
Normally
Not at all
Bring it on!


Tactics

Below is the first of a list of 'tactics'. Answer how up for it you are for this tactic, and whether this is helpful in achieving your goal. You can add notes to each tactic to discuss with your partner when you share your answers. E.g. "I'd be willing to try this if...", or "I definitely wouldn't do this because...".

Click the 'Next' button to reveal the next tactic. You can submit your survey at any time by clicking the Review Answers button at the bottom, or start the whole survey again at any time by refreshing your browser page.

Go out more with friends (on your own)
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Buy new sex toys
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should grope you more
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Let your partner watch you masturbate
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should send you links to porn videos they enjoy
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Visit a swingers club together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Help find ways to reduce your work stress
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Go on a health kick together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Watch your partner masturbate
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Take libido boosting supplements
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Agree to let your partner arrange an online date for you with an anonymous stranger
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should cuddle you more
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Give your partner permission to play with you whilst you're asleep
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Stare lovingly into each others eyes
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Spend a night in a hotel
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Watch porn together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Exercise more
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should help out around the house more to give you more time to relax and (maybe) get in the mood
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should be more gentle with you
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Buy/wear lingerie
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Make an appointment with your GP to confirm there are no phyisiological/psychological reasons reducing libido
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Take regular cold showers
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Book an appointment with a therapist
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Refrain from sex for a period of time
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Masturbate alone more
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Go out on your own (looking super hot!)
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Go out more together with friends
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Book a dirty weekend away without the kids
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Try mutual masturbation (do each other)
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Role play
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Let your partner tie you to the bed (or something else) so you can't move whilst they play
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Take a bath or shower together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Listen to sexy podcasts/audiobooks alone
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Let your partner put a blindfold on you
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Have sex in a swimming pool
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Employ the services of a prostitute
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Get an early night
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Undress each other (no touching)
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Try hypnotherapy
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Dance together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Exercise together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Take turns to write a paragraph of a sexy story
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Listen to sexy podcasts/audiobooks together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Speak to a couples counselor together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Meditate together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Create a sex schedule and stick to it
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Look at anonymous couples sexting websites together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Spend more time 'making out'
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Implement a policy of "no nos" (you cannot say "no" to sex)
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Go to bed naked
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Talk about sexual fantasies together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should stop talking to you about sex
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Your partner should just grab you and fuck you sometimes
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Spend more non-sexual time together ("couples who play together, stay together")
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Invite someone for a threesome (with your partner)
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Use a sleep monitor to check for nocturnal orgasms
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Spend more time talking about non-sexual stuff
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Pass an ice cube from mouth to mouth
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Have sex in the car
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Practice a new sexual position
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Take a long walk on the beach together
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Have sex in a public place
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next
Give each other a massage
Up for it?
Bring it on!
Hard "NO"
Helpful?
Extremely
Not at all
Next